Your dating situation isn’t at all what you had hoped it would be this holiday season. Instead of gazing lovingly across the Thanksgiving dinner table into the eyes of your significant other as he passes you the pig feet, you’ll have to reach for those ham hooves yourself ‘cause the man in your life is either unavailable or just nonexistent.
However, that doesn’t mean that you don’t have anything to be thankful for this Turkey Day. There’s usually a silver lining to every cloud or in this case, gravy for every helping of cornbread stuffing. Either way, remembering to count your blessings and focusing on the positives of your current relationship status – no matter what that may be – is essential for enjoying the holidays.
So, whether you lack a romantic relationship or are just struggling in one that’s not ideal, here’s help looking on the bright side.
Recently Broken Up: What’s good about being dumped right before the holidays? The obvious answer: you can shorten your gift list by one. That money you were going to spend on nose-hair clippers and anti-fungal foot powder for your man, you can put toward a spa day for yourself. Plus, be glad you’re not carrying all that dead weight to family functions and holiday parties where potential suitors and strategically placed mistletoes may be exactly what you need. While some suggest that the holidays are an awful time for breakups, the built in distractions can help soften the blow.
Still Single: Last Thanksgiving Day, you declared that you’d have a date when the holiday rolled around again. Here it is 12 months later, and during the one date you did have you were convinced a short, little man dressed in a red devil suit was going to pop out with his pitchfork at any second. At least that would have made the evening interesting. So, what is there to be thankful for?
First, be thankful that you have the freedom to do whatever it is you want to do. While some coupled folks have to always consider their significant others, you have the liberty to make autonomous decisions about how the thermostat is set and what Lifetime movie to watch for the umpteenth time. Second, be grateful for your circle of support and love that exists even without Mr. Right. The holidays are a great time to gather your friends together for some Beyonce-style Single Ladies celebrating. Finally, be happy that you love yourself enough not to settle.
No matter what your present love life is like, the bottom line is – make the most of whatever that situation may be. That’s the message this Thanksgiving holiday. Focus on the positive aspects of your life and find reasons to celebrate where you are now while looking forward to the future.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship,
find out why you should be thankful here.
Single Independent Sistah 
This is a great post about loving yourself during the holiday seasons. It is unfortunate that many women don’t know how to enjoy their “me” time until the “we” time comes around again.