What Do Dating Sites Offer?

Dating someone with whom you have common interests makes perfect sense. If you’re a sci-fi geek enthusiast, finding a mate who appreciates aliens and paranormal activities not only means you’ll likely enjoy the same movies and TV shows, but also that your significant other won’t ridicule you for suggesting the two of you attend the Star Trek convention.

However, after noticing the scores of different dating sites out there geared toward folks who share the same profession or hobbies, I wondered if singles who use these sites are being smart, by looking for someone who understands their passions, or ridiculous for putting so much emphasis on those things that have little to do with one’s character.

Is it self-centered to search for a guy on WeBothLikeSteak.com just to limit the chances that you’ll ever be pressured to eat a veggie burger?

Sure, it’s good to be on the same page about certain things, but isn’t it also good to expand your horizons, be challenged and grow?

Then again, maybe I’m reading too much into it. Maybe it is just about recreational activities and bonding over something that you both enjoy.

That beats the alternatives which are (1) your partner learning to tolerate love something in which he wasn’t initially interested or (2) you finding someone outside of your romantic relationship to hang with when you’re enjoying your favorite activity.

However, there’s also the possibility that it’s about acceptance.

If you’re a wine connoisseur who has endured criticism from a non-drinking potential suitor, you might decide to avoid that sting in the future by just dating people you know won’t judge you. If he’s just as into wine tastings and trips to the vineyard as you are, then you’ve eliminated that issue. He gets it.

In the end, isn’t that what most folks want out of a relationship: someone who accepts and understands their quarks and loves them anyway?


5 Responses to “What Do Dating Sites Offer?”

  1. 1 T. M. Johnson
    March 24, 2011 at 10:59 am

    Great post! I think it’s all about balance — finding someone you have enough in common with but different enough to keep you interested. For me, the common points can be focused more around values and similar goals.

  2. March 25, 2011 at 12:52 am

    RE: In the end, isn’t that what most folks want out of a relationship: someone who accepts and understands their quarks and loves them anyway?

    Yes…the things we think matter (see your pull down menu for things that interests you) have little importance. While we each of us may have or have had a “LIST”, it becomes obsolete when a relationship becomes real and the character reveal is broadcast by way of experience. It’s the best teacher of all.

  3. April 5, 2011 at 5:46 pm

    I have recently signed up for one of those sites. The problem is the sites really feel so impersonal and I am not a consistent online poster. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this site and for posting the article. I enjoyed your post.

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  4. April 14, 2011 at 6:32 pm

    I like the post and thanks for sharing. I’ve been a big skeptic on taking relationship/marital advice from people with mulitiple divorces and single folks. While everyone is entitled to have their opinion on how relationships are suppose to work, I think I’ll keep looking to people like my grandparents who were married 67 years before my grandpa passed. Once you get to that level, then talk to me.

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