Maybe if I had a significant other, I would have an answer for the following question: What does it mean when your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t acknowledge you at all on Facebook?
I know a few people who are in relationships; although, there’s no “In a Relationship” indication on their pages. They’re going on romantic vacations, but not posting any photos, or sharing even vague, general details with those they obviously consider friends. On Valentine’s Day, there was no status update about spending quality time with that special someone.
As far as the World Wide Web is concerned, these folks are pretty much single.
Like I said, I don’t have a significant other, but I’d imagine that if I did, this would irk me a bit and make me wonder: Is he ashamed of me? Is he assuming I won’t be around long enough to worry about “introducing” me to his friends? Is he a playa, making sure available women don’t think he’s taken?
Maybe they’ve had a discussion and both decided not to mention the relationship. Maybe they’re waiting for a specific anniversary before going public with the news, but unless you’re Brangelina, what’s with all the secrecy? It’s not like you’re going to get mobbed by the paparazzi. Sure, you may get a few questions, but I’d imagine the feelings of the secret significant should trump that minor annoyance.
I’m not suggesting that people update their relationship status 30 minutes after it changes, but I think I’d be perturbed if a boyfriend of mine posted photos of his life but left out all the ones with me in them. Hopefully, any guy I end up dating exclusively wouldn’t shy away from posting a photo of the two of us and writing a caption identifying me as his girlfriend. I guess one could argue that such displays aren’t a big deal, but if that’s the case, then why avoid them?
Luckily, this isn’t anything I have to worry about, but for the sistah out there whose boyfriend seems to have an aversion to mentioning your existence on his cyber profiles, this is for you.