The Dating Power Struggle

A while back, a friend and I debated whether men or women have the upper hand when it comes to relationships. Who rules?

To me, it seems that men have the power in relationships. In most scenarios, the guy makes the first move by initiating contact. Plus, men decide when and to whom they’ll propose, while the majority of women just patiently wait for the question to be popped. Some states even have common-law marriages to help make things legal for the sisters with commitment-shy boyfriends.

My friend thinks women rule the world because, according to him, men do everything they do to impress women. They earn degrees, get jobs and even groom themselves based on who they want to attract and what women are drawn to. According to him, if women refused to date men with ears, all the men in the world would be walking around lobe-less and deaf.

Actually, now that I revisit this, I’m wondering whether it’s just a matter of which person is more interested in making the relationship work.

If the man is head over heels for the woman, then she’s sitting pretty. If a woman is seeing hearts each time she looks at her man, then he may be holding all the cards in that particular relationship.

I’ve heard that the best relationships are those in which the man is more infatuated with the woman. His sheer determination and devotion win her over, and they each end up happy. He’s happy ‘cause he’s “won” his heart’s desire, and she’s happy because he’s treating her like a queen.

I am not really sure what works best, but any future marriage for me would be with a guy who thinks I’m Heaven sent, and I’d have to feel the same way about him.


3 Responses to “The Dating Power Struggle”

  1. 1 Lucy Van Pelt
    January 21, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    In a perfect world, I think all things would be equal. So, there wouldn’t be that competition going on. Relationships should be about loving and supporting each other, not who can take the most advantage and be on top.

    • January 21, 2010 at 10:41 pm

      Totally agree with you. Why does it have to be a power struggle? If we can’t be equal, then why even bother? I want someone on my level. Not a man beneath me.

  2. 3 therelati0nshipc0mpany
    October 30, 2010 at 2:54 am

    Keep blogging! Do you have anymore articles similar to this?

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