Recently, a colleague of mine walked into the office fuming. On that particular morning, she’d been listening to the radio during her drive in, and she was disturbed when a fellow SIS called in to the station and was given a hard time by one of the radio personalities.
The young woman called in for home improvement advice, but instead of answers, she got questions: “Why don’t you have a man?” Then, the male DJ asked about her weight and cooking skills, suggesting that too much of one and not enough of the other could be the reason she’s in the home alone.
As my co-worker and I discussed how inappropriate the DJs comments were, I wondered: If you’re a single woman, what message does your home ownership send to others?
Because the caller that morning was single and owned her own house, the DJ assumed she was undesirable.
I’m not exactly sure how he made that connection, but the majority of the single women I know own the place where they reside because it makes sense, not because of any relationship issues. We’re all passed the point where living with our parents is acceptable, and while renting is an option, for a lot of us, the benefits of owning far exceed that arrangement.
…but why do I feel the need to justify this?
I’m thinking that if a single man with a house had called in that morning, he wouldn’t have been asked about his weight or about how well he changes the oil in his car. So, why did that DJ think it was acceptable to ask a SIS about her cooking skills when she was inquiring about knobs for cabinets?
I sense a double standard.
I’m not sure what type of underlying message people receive when they learn a SIS owns her own home. Maybe it is indicative of relationship issues for some women, but that seems like a stretch. What is more likely is that people, who make assumptions about others based on whether they rent or own, may have some serious issues of their own.