I’m not a superstitious person. I don’t mind “splitting the pole” when I walk down the street with friends. I don’t avoid stepping on cracks in the pavement (and I’m glad to share that my mom’s back is just fine). I’ve walked under ladders, and I’ve opened umbrellas indoors.
However, as a SIS who has served in four bridal parties, and been a hostess in two wedding ceremonies, I’m starting to wonder if the “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” superstition holds true.
I do have at least one friend who wasn’t taking any chances. She refused to be in more than three weddings. It was that serious. At least it was, until her favorite first cousin made plans to walk down the aisle and asked her to be part of that special day. So, just as I once was, she’s staring the superstition square in the face and taking that fourth trip down the aisle come what may.
After all, how do you turn down a bridesmaid invitation based on a superstition? You don’t.
Nonetheless, her hesitancy made me think about the old adage. Where did it come from? My only guess is that someone surmised that if three of your friends get snatched up before you do, then maybe you’re getting up there in age, and your best years are behind you. Even worse: maybe you’re the loser of the group. LOL. Those are my guesses, but the truth is that sometimes it takes a long time to find the right one. In the meantime, I’d suggest being a part of your friends’ special days. If you don’t have a significant other, then you may want to make sure you got some good girlfriends to have your back. Refusing to be a bridesmaid might have the exact opposite effect.
The way I see it, in the end, it’s a win-win situation. If you do end up married one day, you’ll be able to loudly denounce the superstition. If you don’t, you can attribute your singleness to the forces of darkness. Who can argue with that?